tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3655029441146664180.post3736172393532706488..comments2023-05-23T12:00:45.866-04:00Comments on The Adoptive Parent: The Conscious Choice of AdoptionAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16430211503686641416noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3655029441146664180.post-80863330566019241382010-08-27T17:37:54.178-04:002010-08-27T17:37:54.178-04:00Pursuing goals unfettered should still be on that ...Pursuing goals unfettered should still be on that list up by poverty and manipulation. The fact that the 9-5 world is made for men to get ahead keeps women who are usually the caregivers to children from getting ahead themselves with disparaging gaps in wages, employment, and education between the genders.<br /><br />A woman who is willing to parent should be given the opportunity to do so. That includes helping her find childcare and schooling/employment that works around her schedule so that her goals as a mother and as a professional can be pursued.<br /><br />Women should not have to give up their children or put their parenting goals second just to keep up in a man's world. This world needs to be made for everyone--not just men.<br /><br />If the only women in the world who surrendered babies did so free of manipulation, with a load of choices at their feet, fully informed about their rights, the adoptee's rights and the impact of surrender...only relinquishing because they have no interest whatsoever in parenting.....<br /><br />I'd have far fewer problems with adoption. That's what adoption should be for! Orphaned children, children from abusive families who cannot be rehabilitated, and children who are truly unwanted. Those are the children who need homes.<br /><br />Like Michelle mentioned, it would hurt to know that my Original Mother gave me up and was just so delighted to have done so. I am not glad for her deep sadness of being a mother of loss, but at the same time, I'm glad I was wanted I because I love her and always have loved her very much. <br /><br />I know many adoptees who have been rejected when pursuing reunion and have even been told by their Original Mothers that they weren't wanted then and aren't wanted now--the pain of having so much love for a mother and not being loved back or even wanted around is absolutely inexplicable for these individuals.The Declassified Adopteehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16726376584015902627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3655029441146664180.post-22419467510279484932010-08-27T15:36:07.779-04:002010-08-27T15:36:07.779-04:00Hmm. Good food for thought Sally, but I'm not...Hmm. Good food for thought Sally, but I'm not sure I agree. As an adoptee, I'm thinking the impact of being relinquished because you were really not wanted could be fairly powerful. At the same time, being parented by someone who really didn't want you would be pretty harsh too.<br /><br />Bottom line, it would hurt an awful lot to have your parent not want you. And I think it's ok to have an opinion about folks who really don't want their childen.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09180212836126704979noreply@blogger.com