Thursday, October 18, 2012

What's It Gonna Take To Put This Baby In Your Family Today?

This just came across my desk: I have a 1/2 Caucasian, 1/2 African American baby girl due December 11, 2012. Her birth mother has continued to smoke a pack a day throughout the pregnancy and smoked marijuana 2-3 times per week during the first two months of pregnancy. Birth father smokes marijuana 4-5 times a week. If you know anyone who may be interested please contact me at...

Is that typical of the messages adoption agencies and social workers receive?  

First off, you don't have a baby girl, and there is no birth mother in what you're saying. There is a pregnant woman and the baby inside her.

And this: "If you know anyone who may be interested..." Seriously?  Pull up your PAP spreadsheet and see who checked off "open to mixed race" and "will consider drug history."  

Is that how we were "matched?" What about all the warmandfuzzy be-patient-your-baby-will-find-you crooning whitewash?  
Seeing it laid out like that... I feel like I'm going to retch. What is the matter with people?
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Mike and Leslie said...

You're so right Sally. That's EXACTLY how they do it, which couldn't be more wrong!

Anonymous said...

Sounds cold, callus, just another piece of merchandise of limited value and may be damaged...will be put on sale rack soon...supplier is not complying.

That is the reaction I had to the "ad" because that is what it is.

Tee said...

Ugh. That's really disrespectful and sad. Also: Are APs really so picky as to say no to babies who were exposed to nicotine and marijuana? We're not talking about FASD or babies withdrawing from meth here, people... Oy. Definitely sounds cold :(

Anonymous said...

Wow-so weird.

Adeela sikander said...

its really sad..

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