This just came across my desk: I have a 1/2 Caucasian, 1/2 African American baby girl due December 11, 2012. Her birth mother has continued to smoke a pack a day throughout the pregnancy and smoked marijuana 2-3 times per week during the first two months of pregnancy. Birth father smokes marijuana 4-5 times a week. If you know anyone who may be interested please contact me at...
Is that typical of the messages adoption agencies and social workers receive?
First off, you don't have a baby girl, and there is no birth mother in what you're saying. There is a pregnant woman and the baby inside her.
And this: "If you know anyone who may be interested..." Seriously? Pull up your PAP spreadsheet and see who checked off "open to mixed race" and "will consider drug history."
Is that how we were "matched?" What about all the warmandfuzzy be-patient-your-baby-will-find-you crooning whitewash?
Seeing it laid out like that... I feel like I'm going to retch. What is the matter with people?
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When I trip and slam my eye into the corner of a granite counter top
and my eye swells nearly closed and I darn near pass out from the pain
of the hit and the effort of holding in the long string of expletives
jockeying around in my mouth, my three year-old rushes to my side, bends
down close to my face and says, "Mom! I told you three times can I
please have some more milk!"